There’s a lot of hype out there about lengthy, all-nighters, and the need for extended foreplay to get things fired up, using sex toys and altering positions 25 times to extend the play time.  Now, there’s nothing wrong with extended sexual adventures, they’re definitely needed in any sexually active relationship.  Still, let’s not forget about the unsung hero, the ‘quickie’.

There are many men who feel that for the most part women don’t want these quick encounters, or that women aren’t fulfilled by them.  This idea, as unfortunately common as it is, can’t be further from the truth.  But on the flip side of the coin, there are quite a lot of women out there who think that asking for a passionate sexy encounter against the fridge or in the supply closet will make them seem sleazy or dirty.  I implore you, don’t think in that manner.  Men that will think less of a woman for needing to express her sexuality and her desire to be with him in untraditional ways are very, very few and far between.

The common woman, while engaging is self-pleasure, can climax in under three minutes, that exact same woman can arrive at the same goal in just less than 8 minutes from sex.  Plus, the emotional intensity of a quick romp in the back seat of a car, and the additional thrill of the possibility of someone catching you will often help those participating in arriving at the end outcome even faster.  This means that most of the time women will be plenty pleased at the end of a speedy session, and even if there isn’t time for either to climax it’s still fun and can add some exhilaration to your day.

Sex toys can also improve the ‘quickie’ experience as these sessions aren’t always 100% spontaneous.  For those couples who are skilled users of sex toys, and even those who might want to try something new, keep a travel sized sex toy or 2 with you next time you take an outing.  Carrying a mini, discrete sex toy on you, such as a vibrating bullet or finger vibrator, provides you even more options for excitement when the feeling presents itself.  There are sex toys that vibrate (which should typically only be used where there is a lot of noise which can easily be used on both women and men, another option are ‘fingers’ which are usually silicone or rubber and are placed over the tip of your finger and are bumpy or have ridges for added fun.  In addition, you can get sex toys that are meant for the man’s pleasure such as special hand wraps used to enhance hand stimulation.

There are many popular places to get busy, some include:

• While the pasta is cooking
• In the back of a car
• In the office
• In a public bathroom (make sure it’s clean first)
• In the forest on a hike
• Or whenever you’re feeling frisky!

So remember, mainly for you shy ladies out there, voice yourself, tell your partner when you’re feeling frisky and let those creative juices flow!  Sometimes the best sex is fast sex in a random, exciting place at 1:54 p.m.

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